Want more Touch?

Hi, my name is John Meluso,  I have the great pleasure to  remind you of the importance of  Touch -  an understanding that will enhance your life guaranteed.

Over thirty years ago, Denny Johnson wrote “Touch Starvation in America – A Call to Arms!”  In his remarkable book, “What the Eye Reveals”, Denny found that one particular processing style starved in the world.  Many people in the US and even more so in the world processed life, not by what they saw and thought about, not by what they heard and felt emotionally, but more by what their body physically felt.  Touch is their food, just like art and music feed those of visual and auditory processing styles.  Kinesthetic people starved without touch.  This is even truer now, than it was in 1985.

Kinesthetic is the world’s most dominant hidden language and the most misunderstood in the United States.  Close to 80% of the world’s population, use the kinesthetic hidden language.  Understanding that communication style, especially in relation to your own hidden language is a key for greater peace individually and collectively.  Respect is vital to the kinesthetic hidden language.  What is respect to you?

Aretha Franklin sang about RESPECT.  RESPECT is vital to the kinesthetic hidden language and unfortunately, the other languages do not understand the definition of RESPECT, let alone be able to demonstrate it.  Additionally, demonstrations of RESPECT differ between generations and certainly between different cultures of kinesthetic language people.  These Kinesthetic people starve by the lessening of touch in our society.   Now, instead of reporting a disaster of starvation, we utter a simple, respectful plea, Touch, Please!

Touch, Please!  Understanding the Value of Touch, by Denny Johnson playfully, and informatively shares the tools to understand and encourage more Touch.

The Kinesthetic hidden language is often diagnosed as Attention Deficit Order (ADD) or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). Unfortunately, the medical community not understanding the blessing this hidden language style offers, prescribes drugs to modify the perfectly normal behaviors of people with this processing style. Or the Kinesthetic person not being understood self-medicates with alcohol, sugar or other drugs to alter their moods.  

Leo F. Buscaglia

Knowing yourself, from your view, from the eyes of others and from your eye pattern type, gives you a very complete understanding of your communication style.  Learning to effectively navigate in a very visual society is vital for this hidden language in particular.  Knowing your hidden language; and understanding other hidden languages assures you greater effectiveness. Ask your immediate family and friends to complete the questionnaire for your communication style to begin.  Consider asking people that are friends and business associates, in separate profiles. Tell them you will comment on their profile should they want to know more about themselves.   The Free Hidden Language Profile is located at www.4hiddenlanguages.com.

The world is full of confusion and contradiction. We cannot expect to do anything that is absolutely right. We can only measure rightness by the truth within ourselves. And our own truth will never be quite the same as somebody else's. I wish that I could touch you and be sure that it was the right thing to do. I only want to touch you briefly. Just once so that you will know. We are flesh and blood and full of faults. But we are also full of warmth. The world is full of confusion but there is compassion in its midst. communication via simple touch can transmit so much of us in just one minute. Like a painting or a piece of music. I want to touch your soul. I only wish I could be sure it was the right thing to do.” 
― Jay Woodman, SPAN

Johns Hopkins neuroscientist and bestselling author of The Compass of Pleasure David J. Linden presents an engaging and fascinating examination of how the interface between our sense of touch and our emotional responses affects our social interactions as well as our general health and development. Accessible in its wit and clarity, Touch explores scientific advances in the understanding of touch that help explain our sense of self and our experience of the world.
From skin to nerves to brain, the organization of the body’s touch circuits powerfully influences our lives—affecting everything from consumer choice to sexual intercourse, tool use to the origins of language, chronic pain to healing. Interpersonal touch is crucial to social bonding and individual development. Linden lucidly explains how sensory and emotional context work together to distinguish between perceptions of what feels good and what feels bad. Linking biology and behavioral science, Linden offers an entertaining and enlightening answer to how we feel in every sense of the word.

"There are two touch systems," Linden says. "One that gives the 'facts' — the location, movement, and strength of a touch — and we call that discriminative touch."

"But then there's the emotional touch system. It's mediated by special sensors called C tactile fibers, and it conveys information much more slowly. It's vague — in terms of where the touch is happening — but it sends information to a part of the brain called the posterior insula that is crucial for socially-bonding touch. This includes things like a hug from a friend, to the touch you got as a child from your mother, to sexual touch."

"It's not just a different kind of information that's conveyed by the same sensors in the skin that allow you to feel a quarter in your pocket. It's a completely different set of sensors and nerve fibers that wind up in a different part of your brain."  

"You can't turn off touch. It never goes away," says David Linden, a neurobiologist at Johns Hopkins and author of the new book Touch: The Science of Hand, Heart, and Mind. 

Touch is mysteriously crucial for a baby's development

"The best examples of this come from Romanian orphanages after Ceaușescu's fall, when there just weren't enough people around to take care of babies. They were barely touched during the day," Linden says.

"These kids didn't just have a host of emotional problems — though they were depressed and had high instances of schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, and other issues — but they also had a whole raft of physical ailments. They had weakened immune systems, and skin ailments."

"THEY HAD WEAKENED IMMUNE SYSTEMS AND SKIN AILMENTS"

"Other research has confirmed this phenomenon. We're not entirely sure why it happens, but it seems that early touch experience is extraordinarily important for development both cognitive function and a healthy body."

"This is why, nowadays, when premature infants are born and put in isolators, they're taken out for a few hours a day, and pressed against a parent's skin. Initially, when isolators were first invented, people thought you should just leave them in there alone, so they don't get infected. But then they might not get touched for the first two months of life, which turns out to be disastrous."

If you are still reading, most likely you understand the scientific reasons for the importance of touch, and may either personally or know someone, that touch is very important to.  Do you touch?  Do you receive as much touch as you wish?  Do you know people that shy away from touch? Do you find that when you touch magic happens?

Ever notice when you touch someone that the world seems better, more in focus, more important to you?  Does touch sharpen your senses?  Does touch make your life more worth living?

Are you convinced you want more touch?  Are you convinced of the value of touch? Are you ready to touch more, even in a touch phobic world?

Touch Please!  Understanding the Value of Touch, begins the journey of knowing how to include touch in a multitude of creative ways.  The time is now for Touch, Please!

While you may have been holding back before, it's time now to enrich your life with touch. Touch, Please! brings easy and respectful avenues for more touch!  Touch, Please! provides creative solutions in an entertaining manner to answer a very challenging problem, the epidemic of Touch Starvation, especially in America.  

Many may say I don't want touch.  They may not wish to complicate their lives, they may to be isolated for one reason or another, they simply may not understand the importance of touch.  They may be surrounded by people afraid of touch, or the legal implications of unwanted touch. We in America are certainly in a touch phobic society.  Even worldwide touch is often restricted in certain cultures.  Most of all fears and restrictions are due to unwanted touch, or disrespectful touch.  Learning from Touch! Please, many of these concerns shall be dissipated.

Physical touch does not need to be disrespectful, can be extended with permission and need not be even sexual in nature.  A kind word, a kind sound, hugging at a distance all, can connect in ways respectful, nurturing and caring. 

Touch is for people of all ages.  Touch! Please begins a process to end Touch Starvation in America and the World. Touch enriches not only your own life, it touches and enriches the lives of those in your life.  Be a Touch Warrior, and end Touch Starvation in your own life and those around you.

Determine for yourself the advantages and disadvantages below, and make the choice best for you and those in your life!  Satisfaction fully guaranteed, for less than the price of a movie!